Written by Kateb Nuri-Alim Shunnar.
In every aspect of my life, from the everyday to the profound, I've come to realize that discernment is a crucial skill, guiding me in knowing when and when not to act. Not every situation demands my attention, and not every person deserves my reaction. As I journey through spiritual maturity, I find that wisdom is the light that illuminates my path, helping me navigate the complexities of decision-making, conflict resolution, and personal growth. Proverbs, with their timeless wisdom, offer peace and understanding, allowing me to make decisions with confidence and clarity. Reflecting on this, I see how wisdom helps me live with grace, compassion, forgiveness, patience, humility, and love.
As a teenager, I was once told, "Whoever is granted wisdom has indeed been granted abundant wealth." Back then, I dismissed this as another piece of unsolicited advice from an elder, unable to grasp its depth. Now, as an adult, I see the profound truth in those words. Wisdom integrates knowledge, experience, and deep understanding, incorporating tolerance for life's uncertainties and its ups and downs. It is a treasure far more valuable than any material wealth.
Wisdom guides me in demonstrating knowledge, understanding, patience, and moderation in all things. In today's world, where reactions often come from minimal knowledge and little understanding, and where extremes are the norm, wisdom is more critical than ever. It encourages me to show mercy, let go of ego, and keep the bigger picture in mind.
I imagine wisdom as the balance between fire and ice. Fire represents passion, immediate reaction, and potential destruction if uncontrolled. Ice symbolizes calm, patience, and stagnation if unchallenged. Wisdom is knowing when to ignite the fire within me and when to cool down and remain composed. In many situations, my first reaction is like striking a match in a dry forest—dangerous and potentially destructive. Reacting out of anger or frustration can escalate problems quickly, turning small issues into raging infernos. For instance, during a heated argument with a colleague or family member, my immediate urge might be to lash out, defend myself, or prove a point. However, wisdom teaches me to pause, assess the situation, and respond with measured words or even silence, thus preventing the fire from spreading.
Conversely, there are times when I must act, when remaining silent or passive would be as detrimental as being frozen in ice. Injustice, cruelty, and moral wrongs require my action, my fire. Wisdom here is in knowing how to channel this fire constructively—to stand up, speak out, and act in ways that bring positive change without causing unnecessary harm.
Discernment, for me, is the practice of spiritual and moral insight. It’s my inner compass that helps navigate the often murky waters of life. It requires a deep connection with my inner self and a clear understanding of my values and principles. Discernment is not about being judgmental; rather, it is about making informed and thoughtful decisions. In personal interactions, discernment helps me gauge when to engage and when to disengage. Some situations and people exude negative energy, aiming to draw me into their chaos. By discerning these energies, I can choose to step back, preserving my peace and integrity.
Wisdom also teaches me about timing and appropriateness. Just because I have the right to say or do something does not mean it is the right moment to do so. I must pay attention to the timing and environment, feeling things out spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. An impulsive reaction, even if justified, can be counterproductive. Wisdom teaches me to wait for the right moment, ensuring that my actions are effective and constructive. Sometimes, it's like waiting for the right season to plant a seed; acting too early or too late can mean the difference between growth and failure.
In these times, when reactions are often based on minimal knowledge and no understanding, wisdom is a beacon of light. It encourages me to embrace patience and moderation, understanding that not all battles are mine to fight, and not all problems are mine to solve. Wisdom can be mercy in certain situations, letting go of ego, and keeping the bigger picture in mind. Sometimes, the best course of action is inaction, allowing me to rise above pettiness and negativity.
Reflecting on my journey, I understand that wisdom is a lifelong pursuit. It requires humility to accept that I do not know everything, compassion to understand others, and patience to allow situations to unfold naturally. Wisdom is not a destination but a continuous process of learning and growth. It brings clarity and peace, helping me navigate life's complexities with grace and confidence.
One more metaphor comes to mind that encapsulates the essence of wisdom—an anchor in a storm. When the seas of life are rough and the winds of turmoil blow fiercely, wisdom serves as my anchor, holding me steady and preventing me from being swept away by the waves of impulsive reactions and emotional upheavals. It provides stability and a firm foundation, enabling me to face challenges with a calm and measured approach.
The wisdom of discernment is a precious gift that guides me in knowing when and when not to act. It is the balance between fire and ice, passion and patience, action and inaction. By embracing wisdom, I learn to navigate life's challenges with grace, compassion, and understanding. I become better equipped to make decisions that bring peace and positive change, living my life with greater purpose and clarity. Wisdom is indeed abundant wealth, a treasure that enriches my life and the lives of those around me.
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